In this busy life, we spent most of our time whether in the stressful environment of office or understanding the unsolved mystery of competitive books. Whenever we get time out of this, we do use some social media apps or sometimes visit porn websites. This is all the sum of our daily lives. If we are single, we do masturbate, if we have partner we go with him or her for sexual pleasure.
Both masturbation and sex are good in their own way. Where in masturbation you satisfy your reveries by touching yourself in most inappropriate way, in couple sex you satisfy yourself in the company of your partner. Some men finish it within five minutes, while some go for hours in bed with their partner. But have you ever wondered that while doing sex, you feel satisfied but whether she is satisfied?
Yes! Might be she would not tell you but she may not feel satisfied with you during sexual intercourse. In a relation, initially it is ignored by both, but later this issue arises with serious concern, which leads to disturbance in personal life and sometimes end of the relations too. If you really love her, it is your responsibility to make her feel satisfied in any way.
It Takes a Lot to Win Her
Chanakya has said that women are eight times more sexually active than men, it means it requires a lot to satisfy their bodily needs. Studies have revealed that almost 72 per cent women do not feel orgasm during sex. They just compromise their bodily wish with the orgasm of their partner.
It is not a game of some five minutes. But is it all about putting yours into hers? No! It is more than that. You should be attached to her from her hearth, not by body. You should understand her wishes and words without her words. This brings maturity in a relations and makes both understand each other.
Let’s learn few ways you can try with your partner so that she becomes proactive with you next time onwards:
- It is often seen that while doing intercourse, men become self-obsessed and wait for the moment of orgasm. They forget that there is one more person with them who also wants to be satisfied at the very same time. For example, Andrea wants her boyfriend to eat her vagina during sex, but Robert does not like to touch her vagina with mouth. This leads Andrea down and uninterested in sex. She also hides her sexual feeling from Robert because he hardly cares her words for healthy sexual relations. You are required to understand her feelings.
- Do not do anything which she resists. If she does not like oral sex, just try to convince her calmly. Doing it forcefully may make her feel disinterested in sex for a long time.
- Do not get confused with her moaning. When you enter your penis into hers, it gives pain initially but after few minutes pleasure. If she moans, makes little noise, it means she is enjoying it, but it does not mean that she has achieved her orgasm. It is just the beginning of her pleasure.
- Take proper rest before doing sex. Stay calm and stay cool. Do not do any hurry while doing with her. The time is yours so the orgasm is.
- Hold her hand. Cross your fingers with hers. Start from soft kisses and touches.
- Hug her and gradually rub her back.
- Kiss on the neck by pushing hair back. This is one of the most sensitive points to ignite her. She would always love her.
- Grab her lips into yours and do a warm smooch. Yes! Repeat your smooch by closing your eyes while rubbing her back.
- Remove her top from the shoulder and kiss there. Slightly make the shoulder bare by putting the bra strap off the shoulder. Kiss there. Meanwhile, do not forget to rub her back.
- While kissing on shoulder, you can bring one of your hand on her breasts and roll over it. Remember, do not press.
- Come again on lips and do a hard smooch. Read her face now. It will tell you a lot what she desires at that moment.
- Slightly press her breasts.
- Keep kissing and move one of your hand to her buttock. Press there gently.
- Slightly move your hand inside her top from the back and ask her if it can be removed now.
- Do not do hurry, let her put off her top.
- Look at her breasts locked in some sized bra. Appreciate it and take it into your palm. Press gently.
- Kiss again. Cover her faces, lips, shoulders and neck with your kisses.
- There are hundreds of men who find difficulty in unhooking the bra. Be brave, unhook it from back rather than putting off both bra straps. Remove her bra gently.
- Now you have another softest part of her body. Roll your hand over it. Press gently.
- Touch the nipples with your fingers and thumb and look at her face. If she smiles, she is welcoming you to run over you.
- Put of your t-shirt and let her feel the warmth of your body. She will roll her palm over your chest, let her do. She will kiss too, let her do. Feel pleasure with her. Meanwhile, you can keep pressing her breast gently.
- Go down. Unhook her jeans and let her do yours. Do not stop her if she enters her hand into your underwear. Let her play her part, let her be and let her do what she wants. If she is doing this, you are on the right track. You have ignited her desires in proper way.
- Cuddle with her. Rub her body gently and let her do the same. Keep talking. If you want, you can play instrumental music or some slow romantic songs too in the background.
- Do more and more romantic activity with your partner before you start sex.
- Play with her body parts head to toe. Let her do the same.
- Touch her softly. Let her nipples touch your body. Listen her breathing and lock her lips into yours.
- Touch her vagina slowly and patiently. Do not do hurry to insert your penis or finger, just roll your hand there.
- Let her take your penis in hand and play.
- Do not ask her to kiss on penis. Let her do if she desires. Be open and cooperate with her as you expect her to do when you touch her down there.
- Go down and kiss on her thigh. Run butterfly over her body. Kiss around her bellybutton. Kiss her stomach. Come up again. Let her again hold your penis and your take her breasts in your arm.
- Kiss her breasts again and then again. Cherish her face and put all her hair back. Let her kiss you wherever she wants. Make yourself free for her, this is what she needs.
- Turn her. Kiss on her back. Come down gradually from shoulder to back.
- If you people do enjoy oral sex, you can start then but putting yours into her mouth or by eating her vagina.
- Before eating vagina, kiss gently there again and again. Rub gently. She will moan but do continue. Notice where are her hands. If these are on your head while you are engaged with her vagina, you are doing great. Keep going.
- Take rest for a while and talk to her. Take deep breathes. It not only makes you and your partner more active but also increases your sex time span.
- Always remember that doing something on regular basis may be boring. Sex is more about a feel and pleasure not only about penetrating vagina with an erected penis. So sometimes try new things in your sex. Monotonous sex leads to lack of interest of your partner. For example, you can change room, you can change time, you can change dress, you can change music, you can use handcuffs or blindfold, you many you can change type of sex, you can change position and so on. Do innovative things that will engage your partner is more prominent way. For example, you can use ice-creams or chocolate for foreplay. Put it anywhere on her body and then lick softly. Do the same for her as well
- Again, do not do hurry. If you do hurry in anything, it may frustrate her and leave unsatisfied. Play with her body parts gently and listen what she desires.
- It is a bitter fact that if your partner is not enjoying it, you are also not enjoying the actual pleasure of sex. If you think so, it is a myth. Do more and more foreplay to ignite her more and more. Women take little time to be turned on so keep patience till she is activated.
- Do not hesitate to repeat any activity if she requests you to do so or you notice it is giving her pleasure.
- Do not enter your penis inside her blindly. Wait for the moment her vagina gets wet after foreplay. If her vagina is wet, it means she is ready to take your penis in.
- Push your penis inside her gradually. Wet vagina works as lubricant and makes the entry easy. Note that you are putting your weight on her. Let her feel the penetration rather than diverting her mind by putting your weight on her body. Gradually increase the frequency of strokes. Do let her breath properly. Meanwhile, ask her if she is not comfortable in that position or she wants to try any new position on bed or floor.
- You can notice that her nipples have been tight now. Rub these in your fingers. Press her breasts tightly this time and repeat. Make eye contact with her and wink on her. Pass smile and flying kiss.
- Once you are done, do foreplay again. Kiss on her lips to end it in a good way.
- Ask her whether she enjoyed this time. Hug her tightly.
Always remember that be attached with your partner on emotional and mental level so that you feel the best of sexual pleasure on physical level.