There is nothing that makes a woman more secure than a selfless sacrificial male. There is nothing that makes a woman more insecure than a selfish, detached male. When a couple marries, they don’t understand each other quite well because they are from different background, different needs.
A man doesn’t need security but a lady needs a lot. A man is secure in himself. A woman needs security not because she is weak but because she is in touch with things a man is not. Women are very sensitive, caring and connected to the world around them and for you to have a successful marriage, it means you understand all day long, everything in your wife’s life that you connect with and help her which makes her feel secure. Your concern about the kids, finance, her emotions, her spirituality, her job, broken taps, utensils, everything is going to help her in making her secure. A thing that doesn’t bother a man, really bothers a woman. When she feels insecure, there is only one thing that will make her secure that is your care.
Women too should learn how to covey her worries, care and love to the partner. It should never be sounding nagging. It should make a man feel honoured while listening to a lady’s plea to certain things.
A woman is man’s best which is believed when they care for each other and respect each other. A woman comes from different background and she accepts the way you live into. She will only expect the best out of her husband. She is on her toes since morning to evening. In exchange of her selfless efforts she only needs to be cared, to be listened and to be nurtured with love and affection.
A lady gets into a male’s word, accepts what he is for, what his scenarios are, likewise, a male too should try at least once to fit himself in her shoe. How it feels like to accept what she is for, what her scenarios are.
God never creates anything to fail. God designed marriage to support each other, care for each other. What makes her feel secure is a selfless sacrificial male who is tuned in with them. If couple is having intimacy in a relationship, it means they trust each other. None of them tries to pull anyone down. Dominating each other will yield into nothing. This will only create a feeling of disrespect and disrespect.
A woman only wants a good, unhurried, uninterrupted conversation. A husband should dwell with his wife in an understanding way. Giving honour to wife by knowing her desires, dreams, goals, fears and insecurities etc. like a guy does when he tries to get her. Protect her. Women are stronger than men but behind all this they need a strong morale, financial, emotional, physical support. A guy can learn these simple things every single day to be the person a wife needs.
Sometimes you feel that to look after children and handle the household is her duty and you keep yourself engaged in outer world activities. When it goes longer and longer there develops a wall between what you see her and what she wants things to be. This often leads to serious issues in relationships, sometimes separation. So, understand that it is your family and every responsibility is your responsibility. It is not an office where you can easily say I won’t do his or her work. Here, if you say so, you would definitely face the adverse.
Though she will never say, but sometimes hold her hand when roaming in the market, take interest in her choices when she is messed with n number of clothes in shopping mall, suggest some colours of dress and ask her to try, bring ice-cream cones to her sometimes when coming back to home from office, stand with her in the kitchen while she cooks food, go with her for grocery shopping, appreciate her occasionally for preparing tasty food, choosing colour of curtains, placing everything on its place, opening the door on your first voice or doorbell, click some photos with her, let her play Holi with you, hug her in Eid and enlighten her heart in Diwali, dance with her in Vaishakhi and celebrate Christmas with her. These are small things which she wants but will never express.
Do at your own and see how you knit the tightest knot of your relationship that remains till eternity.